mik3cap | Writer's Block: There Can Be Only One

[Error: unknown template qotd]I have a hard time "believing" in something that rarely works and often leads to misery and heartache. Do I believe in commitment? Yes. Do I believe in special relationships between two people? Absolutely. But it seems to me to be completely naive to not recognize that "cheating" is rampant and causes so much difficulty, and it's quite obvious that the whole concept of cheating goes away when people realize that love is not a scarce commodity, that it's better to share, and that, even when time and energy are limited, that being with more than one person at once can enhance the quality of life for all people involved. Monogamy comes from insecurity and jealousy, and both of those feelings are very negative and self-destructive. If you have a true commitment with a person, even if that person is being shared with other people, you shouldn't feel insecure or jealous. When that person demonstrates his or her commitment to you over and over (the same way it would happen with monogamy) what more evidence do you require - and why would it matter that he or she spends time with another person as long as you get what you need from him or her?

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After having been burned by prejudice and relationship fail, I doubt I personally would ever practice poly again. The older I get, the more I begin to think it's like Communism. Kinda cool in theory, fail in practice.

But see, the big illusion here is that people want to blame poly for relationship failure somehow... but the fact is that all relationships fail eventually, and there's no way to know whether a relationship that failed while people in it were poly would somehow work if it was mono. The simple truth is that when people want a relationship to work, no matter what their circumstances, they figure out ways to make it work.

All relationships fail eventually?

Well, I suppose if you want to count separation by death as an instance of relationship failure...

Yes, that is an example of relationship failure.

Writer's Block: There Can Be Only One

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