On confidence

[mik3cap]

Losing 8.5% of my weight has boosted my self-image a bit. Someone I hadn't seen in a while noticed that I was looking good today. Feeling stronger and healthier has given me more energy and verve, and as such has made me feel a bit more confident in myself. I think people are noticing that in me a little now. It seems like I've been getting more positive reactions from people lately, in general.

I'm still a little gun shy about trying to ask someone out though, especially people I don't know too too well.

Someone said to me tonight that the best thing to do is to think that everyone is interested in me, and to act accordingly. The worst that could happen is that I would seem a little foolish and maybe make the person(s) I ask out uncomfortable. Does this course of action seem rash, gentle readers? Or should I just be going for the gusto?

I did get that call from that old flame... hard to say if anything will come of that, though she did say she might want to get together this coming Sunday.

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Consumer note of the moment - NEVER EVER use Yahoo! Personals. They don't cancel your subscription when your ad runs out. WTF?? I haven't had an active ad on their site in months, yet I've been paying a monthly fee to them because I didn't actually cancel the subscription; even though it said the ad was expired!! So what the hell am I paying them for??
Bastards. I hate crap like that.

Comments

Tough call.

[lionlady.livejournal.com]

To talk or not to talk?

That's really rough...and there is no way to blanket statement that. Sometimes telling someone you like them will freak them out, and they won't even want to attempt friendship with you cause they always have "does he still have a crush on me?" in the back of their head. I have done that several times to boys. I feel badly, but I tend to freak out when guys I don't want like me.

Other times, the person IS interested, and waiting for you to make a move.

I guess I would say, do the friendship thing, and watch for little clues and special attention.

[jicklet.livejournal.com]

Well, you can always do the slightly immature thing and go the mutual friends of a person of interest. In the months leading up to my asking out of JediSeth, I had a couple of female friends in deep undercover.. one was a roommate, the other a concerned friend. (Thanks to both, you know who you are :) I used them to find out if he was seeing anyone (cause I didn't dare ask myself), and if he was (still) interested in me. Beware when using the method.. you won't always garner accurate information. I've been thinking back since I started this post, and realized that the information I garnered from my spies was ended up being completely false.

I'm one for honesty, and really prefer that, but then again, I can't really say that that is the best course, as I've been scared off many friendships by non-mutual romantic interest. Although I prefer to think that if they are a really true friend, non-personal-space-intrusive romantic interest won't cause them to cut ties with you.

[mikecap.livejournal.com]

Both very sage replies, with important points to consider. I had thought of the "scaring off" factor and of the possibilities of working through others... but it's good to hear the same thoughts from other people. Thanks!

(as to the course of action, I think I'm going to play conservatively for now)