Writer's Block: There Can Be Only One

[mik3cap]

[Error: unknown template qotd]I have a hard time "believing" in something that rarely works and often leads to misery and heartache. Do I believe in commitment? Yes. Do I believe in special relationships between two people? Absolutely. But it seems to me to be completely naive to not recognize that "cheating" is rampant and causes so much difficulty, and it's quite obvious that the whole concept of cheating goes away when people realize that love is not a scarce commodity, that it's better to share, and that, even when time and energy are limited, that being with more than one person at once can enhance the quality of life for all people involved. Monogamy comes from insecurity and jealousy, and both of those feelings are very negative and self-destructive. If you have a true commitment with a person, even if that person is being shared with other people, you shouldn't feel insecure or jealous. When that person demonstrates his or her commitment to you over and over (the same way it would happen with monogamy) what more evidence do you require - and why would it matter that he or she spends time with another person as long as you get what you need from him or her?

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[methanopyrus.livejournal.com]

"If you can afford to "donate" some of your resources to others, why wouldn't you? And I'd argue that now, more than any other time in human history, more people have the resources to spend more time and energy on more people and spread more love everywhere throughout the world."

They may have the "resources" and the idea to spread love in the world, but do they have the self-love? Do they have all the love they seek in life before they set out to share? In the book "plant spirit shamanism" by Heaven and Charing, they quote a peruvian shaman who says that european people who visit him may want to heal the planet... however it is really permissible and acceptable to get what their spirits want first, their own personal fulfillment of love for their lives.